Dirty talking is an easy way to turn anyone one on and that we have seen while flirting and talking dirty via messages and calls.
The seductive words or voice of our partner are good enough to stimulate us, and therefore dirty talking has always been a dirty secret among couples.
However, many couples forget this secret when they meet in person as they feel shy to express their feelings in filthy language when they are in front of their loved ones.
There is no need to be shy in front with the person who we share a bed with and the couples who realize this does not shy away while talking dirty during their lovemaking sessions.
How to Dirty Talk with Your Partner
Dirty talk need not be abusive and full of filthy language as it can also be done by smart choice of words that would be arousing enough to encourage your partner. Some women prefer dirty talking while their partner pounds hard in them as it boosts his spirit and he continues ramming her with more passion and strength.
Today we are discussing the secrets that make dirty talking easy, comfortable and a lot of fun for couples who want to ignite a new spark in their relationship.
Rules When Talking Dirty
Break the Ice
Most people freeze at the thought of dirty talking. A zillion questions arise in their minds such was what if I go overboard, what if my partner think about me if I talk dirty, would he consider me a slut, should I ask him to talk dirty and much more.
These questions typically arise in the minds of both men and women but more so in the case of a woman. Therefore, they neglect this aspect and avoid raising the topic in front of their partner.
This also can be true sometimes when you talk filthy to your partner, and he or she feels that you are getting verbally offensive. Therefore, you must always be in your limits while talking dirty. Do not start by telling things like you are my bitch, and you are my slut etc. while talking dirty to her.
Start by telling safer things and increase the level slowly so that your partner gets used to it and she will raise the bar towards dirtier and naughtier things.
Maintain a "No List"
You can always discuss with your partner about those words which you find is crossing the line and similarly can always ask him or her about the words that he or she might not like hearing. Hitting a consensus will also help you when you say something overboard, and your partner doesn't like it.
You can always say that this word was not mentioned on your block list and then you together can have a cute little fight over it. Just make sure to be truthful and even if you say something that was added by him or her in the "strict no list" accept your mistake quickly before things go out of hand.
Choose your words
Some words have a profound effect on your arousal whereas some of the words fail to create the magic.
For example, some couples use vagina, penis, nut sacks, etc. to describe the genitals of their partner whereas some people prefer slang words like dick, cock, pussy, cunt, balls, etc. when they talk about their partner's genitals. Therefore it is better to tell your partner which words excite you more and which do not.
For example, some woman might like to hear, baby you are looking like a slut tonight while some women will get angry and even slap if her partner utters such words.
Being Funny is Allowed (Not All the Time)
Sometimes you may sound funny while dirty talking. Though sounding funny is not advisable while talking dirty sometimes it can make you both laugh and make the situation lighter which can encourage you both to try it more.
Remember that dirty talking cannot be perfected in a day some couples take a few weeks while some even master it over a few months.
Make it Your Secret Code
Most of the times we feel horny but having sex does not cross our mind because we are either too busy or too shy to take the initiative.
To make your partner remember that your lovemaking session is long overdue, you can use the dirty talking trick as your secret code to let him or her know that you are longing for sex. Now, many people will say how I will talk dirty when I am already shy.
The answer is simple; you both have already decided that it is going to be your secret code so saying it might puzzle him but he will remember quickly what you are thinking about and that will make things much easier after a couple of times.
It will also in a way meltdown your shyness gradually, and after a few weeks, you might start making love to your partner without asking permission!
How Some Couples "Dirty Talk"
Be inventive
The most important thing required to master the art of dirty talking is that you should try finding new lines and words that are kinkier and sultrier enough to entice your partner.
You do not have to open an Oxford dictionary for that as you have to let your mind roam freely while you are having sex. You can also read some intelligent phrases and horny lines from the sex blogs and magazines which are dedicated to dirty talking.
Also, you can refer those movies that have plenty of arousing dialogues or the porn movies that show a couple talking their way to sex. Hearing audio sex stories is also one of the methods to add ammunition to your factory of dirty talking.
This is to ensure that you do not hit your partner with the same old lines which you use every time. Remember that variety is the spice of life and the same rule follows when you are talking dirty to your partner.
Be patient
If you want your partner to start talking dirty to you, tell him or her before having sex. Make sure that you do not pressurise him or her to talk dirty as it is not "the most" important thing, but it is just to add a new spark to your sex lives.
Therefore, be patient if your partner is new to this and instead you can encourage your partner by saying that he was awesome or she is very good at dirty talking.
Talk in Detail
Dirty talking need not be short and crispy every time. Some people like descriptive talking when it comes to talking filth. Therefore, instead of telling yes baby do it faster, you can say yes push your long dick in my tight ass.
Also, instead of saying that you are horny today you can say your big boobs is making me think of the coconuts of our tree.
Being descriptive while talking dirty will always arouse your partner more, and therefore you need to describe the things which make your partner hot in detail so that you both can reach at a higher level of arousal much easily.
Therefore, you can always tell that you love how her buttocks dance as you push your pecker in her from behind or the ladies can tell how they like to feel his dick deep inside them. Words like this will push them over the edge, and the result will be visible when they both explode spasmodically.
Use Texts
It is always better to start by talking dirty through text messages. You can also message your partner if you want him or her to talk dirty while having sex if you are feeling shy to tell him or her in person.
Also, you can afford to take the risk of getting overboard while chatting as you will quickly get to know by their emoticons if they liked it or not. You can then plunge into dirty talks, and slowly you can take your dirty talking right on your bed while you both are having sex.
Give him/her orgasm through the phone
Though a tough task it is easy to talk your partner into an orgasm if he or she gets aroused and stimulated by your dirty talking. Therefore, you can get as much kinky and descriptive as you can get on the phone and see if that affects your partner negatively or positively.
You can use this experience while having sex as well. Talking dirty over the phone is a great way to sharpen your dirty talking skills as there is no one watching or hearing you when you talk over the phone.
Write a dirty note
One way to excite your partner is by writing a dirty note or letter right after having sex and leaving it under his or her pillow.
When they find this note under the pillow, they will be surprised, and when they read your dirty language and how the last night was satisfying in detail, it will certainly help in revamping their sexual energies.
Remember that the more dirty your note gets, the more fun he or she will have while reading it and it will also reflect how naughty your partner gets while having sex.
Using Role Play While Talking Dirty
Some people like to play master-slave while having sex and the relation can be translated into words while having sex. This will have a great effect on your sexual excitement as talking dirty is the perfect way for enhancing the pleasure of role play while making love.
For example, men can say, come to give me a lap dance or spread your thighs for me, or I will have to bend you by your back. Words like this will excite the hell out of her, and she will be an obedient slave to you all through the night.
Also, women who like to play the dominant role may say, come to clean my pussy with your tongue or I will have to punish you by pushing that candle straight into your asshole. Things like this are to excite your partner and to make them feel erotic during the sex making sessions.
Therefore, you have the liberty of going a little overboard when you are role-playing. The same goes for role plays such as you play a student and your partner playing a teacher or doctor-patient or any other kinky role play.
Do not try to sound sober
Dirty talking is mostly saying nasty and filthy things to each other but in a controlled manner. Therefore, you should never try to sound sober (you can act innocent) when you are indulging in a dirty conversation with your partner.
Sober individuals will say look how round and beautiful your buttock cheeks are looking, but legends will say submit your bouncy little ass to me. See the huge difference between the two lines, and you can judge which one sounds and feels kinkier.
What should I say before having sex?
These are the things that you can say before having sex. These lines act as a seductive invitation, and your partner will not be able to resist his/her urges after hearing them.
Lines that can be used by “Her”:
Lines that be used by “Him”:
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Different Levels of dirty talking
Each person has his own level of dirty talking. For example, 'swallow my dick bitch' would be an extreme level for someone whereas it might serve to be a warm-up for those who love to use abusive and filthy language while talking dirty.
Therefore, it is necessary to classify their levels of dirty talking into three levels viz. beginner, intermediate, and advanced. Let us see some examples in each of these levels now:
Beginner level
The individuals who are beginners i.e. those who are trying to talk dirty for the first time can use these phrases:
Intermediate level
Once you have turned your partner on, you can start talking more directly about sex. This is not only to up your game but also to make your partner feel hornier. For example, you can use phrases like this to make things more wild and kinky:
Advanced level
Once you have talked enough filth, it is time to push the right gears. Talking dirty will not be enough now as your partner would be expecting to hear things that are immoral, extremely filthy, and sinister.
Only partners who trust each other can get to this level and we advise you to progress to this level only if you are dating someone for some months. These are some of the phrases that you can use to unleash the dirty talking beast in you:
How to feel comfortable while talking dirty
It is natural to get offended when your partner uses certain phrases that may sound weird or extremely filthy but you should realize that he/she must have said that just to please you. Similarly, you can also get over the line sometimes while talking dirty.
Therefore, you must be comfortable and make your partner comfortable in every situation while talking filth. Here are some tips can you can follow to talk filth comfortably:
How to talk dirty confidently
If you do not talk with confidence then your partner might not get turned on easily. This is because your partner will feel that you are beating around the bush or he/she might also feel that you are not in the right mood.
These are the tips that you can use to build/show your confidence while talking dirty:
How to be dominating/submissive while talking dirty with your partner?
Many couples enjoy dominating or submissive roles during a dirty talk session. However, one wrong phrase or word can spoil the mood of your partner. Therefore, it is always useful to speak/text carefully while playing your respective roles.
These are some phrases that you can use to dominate your partner:
For dominating men
For dominating ladies
These are the phrases that you can use to make your partner submit:
For submissive women
For submissive men
Dirty Talk in different languages
Using only one language while talking dirty can get boring at times. Therefore, you should be ready to try a new language in case both you and your partner understand it completely.
A new language will not only make you feel unique but it might unleash a barrage of new phrases, insults, bad words, or filth that will make your dirty talk sessions kinkier. Now, let us look at some special phrases that you can use according to a particular situation.
Dirty Talk to create sexual tension
These phrases can be used to ignite the flame of desire in your partner:
Once you have turned your partner on, it is time to up the ante i.e. increase the intensity. You can utilize these phrases to meet this purpose:
Kinky Phrases to make your partner keep thinking about you
Some phrases are so steamy that your partner will think of you even after the dirty talk session is over. Read the below phrases and use them to make your partner keep thinking about you tonight:
How to get dirty while maintaining social distance?
It's quarantine time and everyone is forced to stay in their homes for most of the day. Therefore, it is the right time to maintain the fire of your relationship by sexting. You can use these phrases to get dirty while maintaining social distance:
Conclusive Thoughts
These were some amazing techniques and lines that you can follow if your partner wants you to talk dirty to him/her. It is natural for anyone to get nervous if they haven't tried it before and so do not get disheartened if you fail to do it effectively the first couple of times.
You will gradually master it once you do it regularly. Most of the times we say some harsh words unknowingly while dirty talking and even if your partner does not express it he/she might feel bad about it later. So it is always recommendable to say sorry after having sex so that it does not stay with them.
Also, do not forget to tell how much you love them and you can whisper it in their ears to make them feel better while or after having sex. Hope that you found this article useful and if you have any other suggestions you can tell us without hesitating.
We would also like to hear some crazy lines that your partner has used to turn you on over the years. Enjoy dirty talking and make it steamier and kinkier with your awesome imagination!