Complete Guide on FemDom Ideas (2020)

Some may like the idea of FemDom, while others may outright hate it to the core. But whether you love it or not, FemDom exists, and there are a lot of men who enjoy FemDom.

Imagine a hot woman dressed in a sexy corset and she has a paddle or a flogger in her hand and she is standing right in front of you and is asking you to get ready for an experience of a lifetime.

Would you be able to resist that? Be honest to yourself, and think. We know some of you won’t be able to resist that, and that’s why we have FemDom!

There are tons of guides on the internet that talk about FemDom ideas, but if you would have been satisfied with them, you would have never visited us.

So, if you are interested in FemDom, and would like your lady to be dominating, keep reading because the idea we are going to share with you is going to blow your mind!

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When we did our research, we were shocked to find out that most of the BDSM guides only talked about male domination and females being submissive. Some of the guides that started off pretty good, ended up providing only BDSM tips! which was another disappointment.

Before we share the ideas with you, we would like you to know that females enjoy playing the dominating role as much as men. FemDom can be enjoyed by lesbians or straight couples. And if you do it the right way, you can certainly spice up your sex life for good.

Understanding FemDom

So, what is FemDom actually? Female + domination, that’s what FemDom stands for. In simple words, female domination. If you are bored with your usual sex routine, FemDom will be a breath of fresh air for your intimate sessions. There are many women out there who like to be on top when it comes to sex.

Some women even say that FemDom allows them to have better orgasms. Luckily, there are myriad FemDom ideas that you and your partner can try out together. Like we said, FemDom can be tried by same-sex couples as well.

FemDom is very appealing mainly because the women who like to play the dominating role often wear sexy attire, and that makes them super attractive. So rather than regular lingerie, you might see your woman dressed in a tight corset.

Don’t freak out if the simple woman that you know shocks you with dark and heavy makeup. That’s part of FemDom. If you have never tried FemDom before, start your FemDom experience with a simple routine.

For example, you can tie your partner’s hands and spank his butt with your hands if you (or him) are scared of using floggers or other sex toys. The point is to become familiar with FemDom.

What is FemDom and How is It Different from FinDom?

You should let your partner know that you are interested in trying different things to make the FemDom experience more enticing. Let your partner know how you would like them to behave when you are in charge.

Sometimes some men also share their fantasies as well, like they might ask their female partner to pull their hair while they spank their butt, or when they are tied to the bed. Some men love it when you tease them, play with them, tickle them, and more.

If they ask you for that, give them that because that will intensify the role-playing game. These techniques work like magic if you are starting off. We don’t recommend going too strong on your first time.

Start slow and if you like it, you can gradually move on and try other stuff like the ideas that we are going to share soon. Some couples might feel happy with a little bit of FemDom and that’s completely normal. So, whether you would like to try FemDom or you have been wanting to try something new,

FemDom could be a great addition to your sex life.

Why do women love to try FemDom?

The reason why so many women like to try FemDom is that it gives them a sense of freedom and independence. Most of the female domination that you might have seen in porn movies are actually way too extreme, and they are mostly scripted. They are really hard to execute as well.

FemDom is your time to have fun with your mate. Talk to your man or your female partner, and ask them if they are comfortable with whatever you are doing to them. They should communicate their feelings towards FemDom clearly.

There should also be a safe word when you try this new kinky experience.

Don’t forget that the more you communicate, the better you will be able to enjoy it. While trying FemDom, you might have to buy certain things, for example, certain BDSM sex toys, sex furniture, or anything that will allow you and your partner to enjoy each other more.

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FemDom Ideas

Even if in most of the FemDom experiences, women like to dress in a certain way, there are no mandatory rules that say you have to behave or dress in a certain way to enjoy FemDom. Be your own boss, and show your man that you can dominate him when it comes to sex.

Finally, know what works for you. Some of the activities might not work for you, while others will be sure-shot winners. Keep trying new ideas to find out your inner taste. Having said that now we reveal our hand-picked ideas of FemDom.

#1 Let your partner worship your shoes

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This might seem too bizarre for a few of you out there, but some females feel really horny when their partner kisses or licks their feet and shoes. Imagine wearing a nice pair of sexy stilettos that you have purchased particularly to wear them for your FemDom fetish night.


Let your partner lick it, increase his or her body temperature, tempt them that more is coming their way.


Also, other things to include in foot worship is to kick your partner with your foot, but be gentle. You can step on him too and finally ask them to lick your bare feet, after all, you would like your partner to worship your feet, wouldn’t you, so go for it!

#2 Cock and ball bondage

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Cock and ball bondage, like foot fetish, is not for everyone. So, if it sounds a bit too scary for your partner in particular, rather than buying a metal cock ring, you can buy a stretchy cock ring. They are stretchable and are comfortable to wear. Ask them if they are comfortable wearing them.


Remember you are not creating a porn film, and you are here to try FemDom because you want to enjoy this experience. If they start feeling comfortable with the cock and ball bondage, you can get a metal cock ring.


There is something called Gates of Hell available in the market too which will has multiple metal rings. That’s pretty rough, but if your partner is into it, let him have it. If you want to try something more extreme, you can get a cage for your partner too.


Ask them to get their genitals inside and wrap them  in a plastic bag. Don’t let him go hard, and that’s the challenge for them.

#3 Time for some sissy play

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How about buying your male partner a pair of girly underpants? You might not be aware of this, but some men love to wear frilly underpants while they are in a submissive state. They like to hear insults or praises from their partner.


If it’s not fun and he doesn’t like it, both of you can have a good laugh about it later. Won’t it be great to add an element of humor in your FemDom routine? Think about it. You can ask your partner to wear it as a part of punishment too.


Look online and buy the best underpants for your partner so that both of you can have the best time together. While he dresses up for you, think of a nickname for your submissive partner, and call him by that name. Humiliate him if he gets turned on by that, or laugh out loud.

#4 Try impact play

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Impact play is a must-try if you want to indulge yourself into full-time FemDom fetish. You can think of an idea to punish your submissive partner. How about asking them to get down on their knees and turn into a dog.


Spank his butt hard, let your partner ask for more spanks because that will turn him on. You can use your hands if you would like to go old-school, or else use a tailed flogger or a cane. That will give you a serious sensation of getting into the dominating role.


There are so many things that you can use to spank your partner’s butt, like paddles, slappers, crops, canes, floggers, and whips. Each of these kinky items are available online. Buy them if you would like the whole FemDom thing to be serious.

#5 Try bondage

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Bondage is a must-do activity if you want to try FemDom to the extreme. You can tie your partner’s hands with a regular handcuff. You can blindfold them, or you can put a gag in their mouth, so that it restricts them from talking.


You can even tie their hands and legs together, and try to stretch their body if you want to punish their body hard. The gag is another item that you can buy for the bondage role-play activity.


Ask him to spread his legs, put on some nipple clamps, and tease him so that he finally begs you to let him have sex with you.

#6 Tease him

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To make your partner feel horny while you try different things, make sure to include teasing. Touch him everywhere, as this will make him really horny. You have got to tease him and keep pushing him. He will beg you for more soon.


Start by touching him gently. You can decide to touch his chest or his genital parts, and before he tries to touch you, you can tell him that you have not permitted him to do that yet. Whenever he crosses his limits, tell him that he must apologize to you.


You can also ask your partner to call you with a certain name or address you as  mistress.

#7 Control his orgasm

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After all these things, your partner will want to cum.


Let’s say you permit him to play with your pussy. He starts banging you hard, and when you realize that he is about to come, you can control or stop him from cumming by using a chastity belt and hit him hard so that it ruins the whole orgasm mood.


Many people enjoy it when they get to control their partner’s orgasm. You can control his orgasm as long as you would like to. You can bring your partner to the edge of orgasm over and over again, and then not let them cum. That’s the whole game!

#8 Ask them to serve you

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This is the fun part of the FemDom fetish. Ask your partner to serve you. You can ask him to do anything for you.


Tell him that you would like him to give you a full body massage, ask him to give you a boob massage, anything and everything that you would like to get from him, your partner will give that to you. If you don’t want to feel aroused, ask him to paint your nail or to give you a foot massage.


Think of anything that you would like your partner to serve you with, and he must do that for you.

#9 Humiliate him

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Humiliation is another way to enhance your FemDom experience with your partner. Humiliation doesn’t always have to be extreme, but couples who often try FemDom feel better when the female insults him harder. Insults can give your man a hard-on.


There are a lot of things that you can do. For example, when they finally start to bang you, you can tell him that their performance is inferior. Try to humiliate them as much as possible, so that they try their best to please you. After all, you would want a good fuck, wouldn’t you?


You can even think of making them do certain humiliating acts, for example, asking them to dance like a woman or dress like a woman. Tell them to lick their own cum once he orgasms, and if he doesn’t, punish him.

#10 Go for anal play

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For anal play humiliation, you should first speak to your partner. Get to know from them if they are comfortable with this domination idea. If they say yes, you can buy a few anal sex toys like dildos, and butt plugs.


For a few men, anal play can be a bit intimidating, and some might feel humiliated after an anal sex play as well. For many straight men, the anal plug is supposed to be a part of women's sexual pleasure and not men’s, even though anal play can be enjoyed by everyone.


You can customize the anal play as you want. You can ask your partner to lie down for you in a certain way and start playing with their butt hole just the way you want that will let you feel more satisfied.


Before you get on with the anal play, you could tell your partner that you would like him to come clean shaved for you. Ask him to shave the genitals for you properly. Some men enjoy a prostate massage. If your man is into that, playing with their anus can give them extreme pleasure.  


To make things pleasurable for both, what we recommend is speaking to your partner about it, and asking them if they are willing to go for butt play. After all, consent is the most important aspect of a sexual relationship, more so when BDSM is involved.

#11 Ask your partner to give you oral pleasure

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FemDom is your way to enjoy pleasure just the way you want it. So, while he is still in his submissive state, and you are not done giving him punishment or asking him to serve you better, you can ask your partner to kneel down and start giving you oral pleasure.


You can ask him to give you cunnilingus in a certain way, or you can also ask him to use a dildo on you. While he performs that routine for you, you can comment on his performance. You can decide to praise him for serving you in the right way or insult him so that he starts performing better.

#12 Ask your man to Dress in a certain way

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In FemDom the females don’t always have to dress in a certain way to look dominating. You can ask your man to dress the way you want them to. This will surely give a kick to your FemDom fetish.


When it comes to your dress, you can wear anything and everything that will make you feel superior.


The best color that you can go for is black, as it is just the right color to look and feel dominating. While for men, you can ask them to wear female underwear that you may have purchased or ask them to stay naked.


For you, there are many choices - you can choose to wear high heels for the foot fetish. Some women prefer to wear thigh-high boots and pair them up with a pencil skirt. If the pencil skirt is not your cup of tea, go for a bodycon dress. You can also wear a corset with black underwear.


Lingerie can be a good choice as well. You are the queen of the show, so go ahead, and wear whatever makes you happy.

fantastic roleplay FemDom Ideas to Try

Boss and Junior

In the boss and junior FemDom roleplay, you are the boss, and your partner is the junior. Being the boss, you can become as dominating as you want to. Wear a sexy female boss attire to look great. A white shirt with the cleavage revealed will make your junior want to have you right away. 

But because you are the boss, you can grab whatever you see in the office-like room that you have created, and punish him. If there is a ruler, pick it up and punish him for touching you inappropriately. You have not given him permission, remember.

Now because he is guilty, it is your turn to ask them to beg for mercy because you are going to turn the tables on him.

Teacher and Student

Think of a situation, where you are a teacher, and a very strict one, and the student, who is your partner, in this case, is late for class. You are angry that he is late, and you feel that he should be punished. This would give you the opportunity to punish him hard.

You can think of any situation to punish your students. If you don’t want to be a teacher, you can pretend to be a librarian, you will find plenty of opportunities to dress inappropriately to seduce your student and make him drool.

Robber and Cop

Have you watched porn videos of female copes letting their convicts or prisoners fuck them?

If you like it, you can think of roleplaying a similar situation, but with FemDom. Here in this idea, what you can do is handcuff the robber who in this case will be your partner, and you are the cop. Because he is a criminal already, punish him harder to beg you for mercy.

You are the judge in this game, and you are his boss, so he is bound to listen to you.

Parting words

FemDom is not the usual sex that you get to have with your partner every night. It is very different, and may not be everyone’s cup of tea. Because it is a different fetish and includes some extreme engagement, like foot fetish, and domination, it is always better to speak to your partner about this idea.

Don’t throw a bombshell and try FemDom all of a sudden. Discuss it, read about it as much as possible, and communicate your feelings to your partner about this idea. If your male partner is not comfortable being dominated, or your female partner is not happy with the idea, drop the plan.

But try to discuss how this idea can let both you and your partner try new sexual things. Remember to have fun. Always go slow in the beginning, and once you become experienced enough, the sky would be the limit for you. ​

Be honest about the things you would like to try with your partner, and keep talking to them about each idea that you would like to try, and also make sure your partner is comfortable with the idea. The best way to enjoy FemDom is by knowing what your partner thinks about it.

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