Complete Guide on How to Give a Handjob (2020)

Why are handjobs so underrated? Try and touch your man’s tool, and in just a few seconds, you will notice his penis getting hard.

That’s how powerful your touch is. But, ladies, if you don’t know how to give your partner a good handjob, he will most likely ask you to stop doing it or learn about it.

What an embarrassment! So, won’t it be better to get pre-active and learn the ways to give the best ever handjob to your partner?

That’s why we are here for you. We will tell you how you can become an expert at giving handjobs!

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Watch how he does it

The best way to know how to give your man the best handjob is by watching him pleasure himself. Watching your man stroking his cock is erotic as well. Not that you will sneak a peek through the bathroom doors while he is enjoying his private space.

Let him have his space, ladies, but you can suggest something, for example, you can talk about your fantasy of watching him do it. This will turn him on; tell him that you would like to watch him masturbate. And when the moment comes, and you do see him masturbating, learn how he does that.

What you should focus on is the way he is doing it, the amount of pressure he is putting, these things will help you. Once you know how to do it, you can ask him if you can stroke it for him.

Don’t feel shy, talk to him and get some tips from him

Many ladies feel shy speaking to their partner about handjobs, but how would you know whether your man is enjoying the handjob or not if you don’t ask? Men know how to touch themselves; that’s why there can’t be anyone better to ask about a handjob than your partner himself.

When he comes to know that you would like to give the best handjob to him, your man would certainly like the idea because he will understand that here your focus is only to make him happy and nothing else.

Every man loves the idea of being touched, and when you ask him directly to teach you how to do it, he will like it even more. He will know that you are interested in giving him pleasure.

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Ask what else he would like 

You also need to ask your man what else he would like. For example, would he like you to touch your body too while giving him a handjob, would he want you to use two hands instead of one, would he like to add some titty fuck as well? Be absolutely confident when you ask him these questions.

Men often like it when their partner whispers naughty things they would like to do to them while giving a handjob, it turns them on like anything. While asking him directly will get him all pumped up, there is one more thing that you can do.

Just put your hands on his body when you get intimate and allow him to show you how to do it, in fact, you can ask him to show you how he would like you to touch him down south. How much pressure would he want you to use and how he would like you to stroke him.

Allow him to show you and learn the pattern.

Pay attention to his gestures

When someone feels satisfied, naturally, we start to moan and groan or move our body in certain ways. The same thing happens when you give a handjob to your partner. So, when you start giving him a handjob,  you must pay attention to how he is behaving. Is he making some noises?

How about his body movements? Is he closing his eyes and moaning, while you give him the hottest handjob? Your job is to pay attention to what is working and what is not. If you can see that he is not getting turned on, you will know that you need to try stroking him differently.

Prepare your hands well 

You don’t want to be touching your man’s private parts with dirty hands, right? After all, unwashed and dirty hands mean you are allowing germs to linger all over his penis. On top of that, dry and rough hands are not comfortable either.

If you want him to enjoy the handjob, you have to make sure that you have washed your hands and have moisturized it properly before even touching him.

Use some soapy solution and wash your hands first, wipe it off, and now use some moisturizing lotion. Make sure your hands are 100% clean. You wouldn’t want your partner to insert dirty fingers inside you either, so maintain hygiene.

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Where to Give a Handjob

So, you are not really in the mood, but your man is horny. Since you don’t want him to feel upset about not having sex, what you can do is give him a nice handjob. He will feel good about it..

So, whenever you are not feeling frisky, you can simply offer him a handjob instead. That will do the trick.

While driving

Ever wondered about being naughty while he is driving? Making him feel aroused while driving may not be the best idea, but if you think you are safe, you can definitely give him a handjob. You can talk to him and ask him if he would like you to be a bit daring?

Be cautious, and have fun. Try not to get caught, though.

At a movie theater

If you don’t mind taking a little bit of risk, you can actually get frisky at a movie theater too. Whenever you have some dirty thoughts on your mind, what you can do is bring along a coat and hide his penis  with the jacket.

You don’t need to undress him, just unzip his trousers, check out where you guys are sitting, if there are a lot of people around or not, and give him the most exciting handjob ever.

Try It in the Shower 

Shower sex is popular, but do you know that you can try giving your partner just a handjob in the shower too? Both of you are already wet. Rather than going for a shower together, let him go to the bathroom first. Then surprise him by hopping in.

Touch his penis, give him a handjob, and stop yourself after making him feel aroused enough. You will have your man drool all over you. This is one of the best ways to keep your intimacy intact.

When to Give a Handjob?

In most cases, it is not just the location that should be considered when giving someone a handjob. For the maximum experience, you should also think about the time when you give your man that touch of heaven. 

Lazy morning, How About a Handjob?

You have just woken up, and you are not really in the mood of having a full-on sexual intercourse, so, reach out to your husband’s penis and give a handjob. That’s it, you don’t need to have sex each time your partner initiates, sometimes women don’t really feel the need to have sex.

Tell him that you don’t want to have sex, but you can give him a handjob, and a nice one. No one would be able to say no to that. And who knows ,once you start touching him you might feel like having him too.

When You are on Your Periods

While some women don’t mind having sex when they are on their periods, there are a few who don’t like to have sex during that time of the month at all. But, how can you make your man understand that?

So, tell him that you would like to offer him a handjob because you don’t feel comfortable having sex. You don’t have to worry about stains, and you would still be satisfying your partner.

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Tease him while giving him a handjob

If you and your partner like handjobs, then there are lots of ways to make the handjob experience all the more exciting. Use your body to tease him and watch him beg you for more.

Do some dirty talk 

What can be more fun than increasing the temperature with dirty talk? When you give him a handjob, start talking dirty to him. This trick is especially suitable for those who are shy. Whisper something nasty to him and make him feel wanted.

While talking to him, try to tell him what you would like to do to him and ask what he would like you to do as well. Have the confidence to start talking about dirty things. The more confident you sound, the sexier you will be in his eyes.

You have to go slow 

Don’t rush. Take your time to develop intimacy. Let him feel good about the moment. Go as slow as possible in the beginning. Indeed, the speed will increase with time, but when you are just starting, go slow. The slower you go, the more anticipation you will build.

Know when to pause

Here’s how you can make him go crazy for you. While giving him a handjob, know when to take a break. Pay attention to his body language.When you think he is peaking, stop. Touch him somewhere else instead, kiss him on his lips, and don’t touch his penis at all.

You will see him craving for more because his urge to cum has heightened. Let him beg for more, and once he does, begin giving him the handjob again, but then stop again, but don’t make him feel annoyed, just play along.

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Do touch him all over

When you touch his penis, and start giving a handjob, you will notice that his whole body is craving to get affected. He will move, his hands will be all over you, giving you signals that he wants to be touched as well.

While stroking him gently, use one of your hands to rub his inner thighs, his chest, his face, kiss him on his neck, his forehead, and lips. Don’t stop, because he doesn’t want you to stop. Handjobs will excite both of you and will make you want to have each other even more.

Touch yourself while giving him a handjob

When you touch him, especially his cock, you will feel horny as well.

So, while you are stroking him with one hand, use the other hand to touch your breasts or your vagina. Once your partner sees you touching your body, it will tempt him to follow your hand’s direction, and you will find him touching you all over your body.

Men love to play with soft and supple breasts when they are being touched.

Get ready to give the sexiest handjob

You already know when to give him handjobs and how to tease him while giving him a handjob, now it is time for you to get into the action.

Grab it gently

When you are all ready to finally touch him, grab his penis firmly, but be gentle. Put some pressure when stroking. The penis will not fall apart if you add a little bit of pressure. So, don’t be afraid. Use some pressure. Switch between a gentle touch and a hard touch from time to time.

Sometimes when you put more pressure while stroking, especially when both of you are entirely in the mood to have each other, more pressure can be very sexy. Anything that keeps him in a comfortable state of mind and doesn’t give him pain, you can go for it.

Add some lube 

Handjobs become even better when you use lubricants. Skin to skin friction, especially when the hands are dry, can make your partner feel uncomfortable, so use a water-based lube to stroke his penis nicely and quickly.

When you use a lube, the process of giving a handjob becomes more comfortable and a lot less painful when you are putting some pressure. A lube can also be a good idea for the first-timers who have never given handjobs.

Go slow, that’s the key

Remember the part where we talked about anticipation? Don’t give him what he wants right away. Wait for some time. You already know that your partner wants to be stroked faster and harder with time, but the key to a great orgasm is to leave him wanting for more. Make him beg for more.

Go slow when you stroke him for the first time, pause, and then go fast again. Show him who is in charge.

Change your speed 

No one enjoys a handjob that continues at the same speed. You have got to change your style and speed. You need to create excitement and let your partner know that when it comes to a handjob, you are better than him! Play with his mind by changing the speed.

Go slow in the beginning, and then suddenly increase the speed, then lower the pace. Alternating the speed is key, here. When you are going slow, be sure to add some pressure, that’s how you will have him asking for more. But don’t let him cum immediately.

You shouldn’t -  anticipation, remember? You need to be sexy and create the right amount of excitement.

Try using two hands

You have played with one hand; now, it is time for you to try using both of your hands. Don’t focus on whether you can do it right, focus more on seducing him, and once you shift your focus on pleasing him, you will notice that you are able to give an extraordinary handjob.

Your man always uses one hand to please him, so try to twist the game by using both of your hands. Here’s what you need to do: place both of your hands on his penis and start rotating your hand and keep moving your hands up and down as well.

In case, you feel that you are not able to wrap both of your palms perfectly around his penis, use your fingers.

Ask Him if He is Enjoying It

You won’t know whether your man is enjoying your handjob or not unless you ask him, so while you give him a handjob, ask him how he is feeling, and if he would like you to be more energetic with the stroking, or, does he want you to touch him all over his body while stroking his penis.

This way, you will assure him that his satisfaction counts and all you are focused on, is his satisfaction and nothing else. Tell him that you would like him to relax. The sexiest way to ask him if he wants it or not is to lean towards him and whisper.

Enjoy It Yourself

Handjobs are fun if you enjoy the whole process.

Your partner is already enjoying it, and he is getting seduced, so it’s time for you to enjoy the entire process as well.

While stroking his penis , keep saying naughty things, touch your body too, kiss him passionately, show him and let him know that you are in the moment, and you are enjoying every bit of it. The key is to be into the activity and enjoy it.

Be attentive 

While giving him a handjob, do it to please him. Just be aware of how you are doing it, is your man reacting well and is he enjoying it. Watch his expressions, you would surely not want him to go off and masturbate all by himself.

That’s why it is necessary for you to be attentive and watch his reaction.

Keep communicating 

You have got to add some dirty talk to this fun session. You need to tell him and make him realize how much fun you are having while having him, and also how much you like it.

Don’t ask him repeatedly if he likes it, because that will kill his mood after some time, but keep up the  communication. Add non-verbal communication as well, for example, moaning, and making some sounds while you touch him.

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Handjob Techniques - Different Ways to Try

The twister

Twister is when you do up and down motion with your hand. This one causes intense pleasure. Use some lube, and hold his penis in a firm grip. This is the basic handjob that everyone knows about, but your man would love it when you add some lube.

Twist your hand while making the upward and downward motions.

The tip 

Here, you will have to use both of your hands. One hand should be on the shaft and the other, right on the tip of the penis. While one hand rubs his shaft, the other should move in a circular motion on the tip. The tip of a penis is very sensitive; hence we advise you to use this technique carefully.

The escalator

To do this technique, we recommend using a lot of lube. In this technique, you will be using both of your hands. From the very tip of his penis, you will go all the way down to the base of the penis. Once the first stroke is done, remove your hands, then give him a second stroke.

Keep doing it, but only from top to bottom. This will not allow your man to cum, but this can be used as a filler in between to tempt him for more.

The ring

Use your index finger and thumb to create a ring and circle around his penis. Yet again, you will be doing some basic strokes, but only by using your index finger and thumb in a ring shape. In this technique, you won’t require lube.

You can use either one hand to create the ring shape or both of your hands.

Campfire creation

In this technique, you will be using the palm of both of your hands and rub your hands back and forth. This technique will also not let your partner to cum, but he will surely enjoy the sensation. Think of a campfire situation, where you try to make a fire out of wood and leaves.

You need to rub your hands, and don’t forget to apply lots of lube to do this technique.

Blindfold him 

Try this new, popular technique. Use a blindfold and cover your partner’s eyes. Now use one of your hands to stroke him. This technique will excite him a lot. You can even use your mouth to give a blowjob in between as well.

Parting words

This was our guide on how to give a handjob. While giving a handjob, make sure that you make eye contact with him. You need to look at him. When you look at him, you talk through your eyes, and let him know that you are enjoying the moment. It also creates the right erotic atmosphere.

We have shared all the techniques you can try. Go ahead and try them all out, watch his expressions, and ensure that he is enjoying it. If you would like to be sure that he is enjoying the experience, don’t feel shy about asking him about anything else he would like you to do.

Communicate and get to know from him what he wants. Handjobs are a great way to get your sex session started. Even if you are not in the mood to have sex, handjobs are enough to make your man happy. Rather than completely ignoring him, let him at least enjoy your touch.

You can also do handjobs before you get into full-on sex. Make yourself and your partner happy by trying handjobs; he would love it.

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