Top 14 Gay Dating Sites (2020) – Review & Comparisons

Online dating in today’s time has become quite a normal phenomenon.  

A lot of people of all age groups and sexual orientations signing up to make use of online dating apps and sites to find their next hookup partner or even search for a long-term, healthy and happy relationship.

In the last two decades or so, people have become more aware and open about their sexualities, and therefore are looking for avenues that not just help them explore their sexual desires deeply, but also help them meet like-minded people who share common beliefs and ideas as them.

The LGBT community has been traditionally overlooked in the world of online dating, but that concept is now slowly and steadily gearing towards a change.

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Thanks to tons of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender dating apps, now love is the only thing that has emerged triumphant amidst all of this. The days of having to incessantly search for that cute boy in a bar seem to be over, with all  these apps and dating sites doing the bulk of the work for you.

With these dating apps that are sprouting day in and out, you can literally look for love, without pants! (Ahem, ahem)

One of my gay friends initially had a tough time finding love on heterosexual dating sites over the last decade, but with these platforms tailored specifically towards gay, lesbian or bisexual and even queer folks, he finally has had a sigh of relief and can find his ‘Mr. Right’ at the swipe of a finger, without any fear of judgement.

Queer and gay-friendly dating apps have become quite a rage amongst both the heterosexual as well as the LGBTQ community and it is not surprising that while some of them are just okay, a lot of others are pretty good, and worth every penny or second that you spend on  them.

When looking for a gay dating site that does not scam you with hidden prices and rather lets you do what you exactly are there for, you must keep in mind to do some research about the user base and demographic of the site.

What additionally helps are reviews from other users along with a little research regarding the site’s friendliness and support initiatives to ensure a safe space to have fun or look for something serious, for people of the LGTBQ community.

However, since you are running short on time and have better things to do rather than just researching for the perfect dating site for yourself, we decided to take up the job on your behalf to do the dirty work.

Here, we present before you the list of top 10 gay dating sites on the Internet currently, which will make all your gay dating dreams come alive.

Site Name (Monthly visitors)

Monthly Pricing

Website Link

Zoosk

Free

Gay Match Maker (18,262)

Free

Gaycupid (157,168)

3-month trial period

Zoosk

Zoosk is a popular name in online dating circles courtesy their 30-million strong base of users, and they also specifically have about 1 million gay users, which makes it an uberly popular option for people of different sexual preferences to go and check out what they offer.


They are one of the earliest gay/heterosexual dating platforms which have implemented the algorithm-based, “behavioural matchmaking” system to help their users find the love of their lives.


This method of matching people works on getting people who are similar in terms of likes, dislikes and hobbies or the entire personality as a whole, together.

You tend to receive suggestions for potential matches via the ‘carousel’ feature, where an easy to surf list of profiles get presented before you in the form of a well-laid out format.  


This allows users to swipe through the profiles and match with the ones they find most interesting. Just like apps such as Tinder, Grindr and Bumble, the carousel feature contains three options – Yes, No or Maybe, which help you express your interest in the person.


Furthermore, you can send a ‘smile’ or like to your potential match, and if you are a little too adventurous, maybe even buy a few Zoosk coins, which you can use to buy gifts for your suitors.


The profile details are super-efficient and easy to set up, and take no more than a few minutes to get going.


While there are fake profiles as well, in its database of 40 million-plus users, the success stories and the cute photos are just as adorable and worth giving a shot, when you log onto the site for the first time.


The advantage with this app is absence of lengthy questionnaire that  can bore the hell out of you and  Zoosk. The modern UI and design elements, along with the option to upload your photos is another benefit of using Zoosk to find the hunk of your dreams.

Gay Match Maker 

If you are searching for a gay dating site where you will get to meet tons of Australian gay men, then come and join Gay Match Maker. 


This site was launched some time back in 2002, and the good part about this site is that it is 100% free. You just need to register to get started with the dating platform. 


This one is a dedicated site for all the Australians, who would like to have some romance in their life, fun, and are looking for friendships. 


The site apparently has more than 300,000 members, and when we visited it, we were disappointed with its layout. Other than that, it’s a good site.


Another good thing about Gay Match Maker is that there is not even a single fake profile. All the people that you get to see are legit and genuine. 


Once you register, you will be asked to submit your photo id copy for name and picture verification. The privacy policy is very strict.


Estimated monthly visits: 1M+

Compatibility: Desktop

Website link: www.gaymatchmaker.com.au 

Gender Ratio: 100% Gay Men

Best for: Hook-up and casual sex.

 

Gaycupid

Part of the wildly popular Cupid Media group of specialized and general dating sites, Gaycupid is the company’s answer to help gay men find partners for themselves.


Launched in 2002, the site boasts of a sizeable number of users, which stands 200,000 if you ask us in precise numbers.


Most of Gaycupid’s users are from the United States, South America and Asia, with the average age being between 25 to 45 years.


The members here are usually looking for long-term commitment and a loving relationship rather than a one-off sexual encounter or casual dating.


As a gay dating site, almost 100% of their users are gay men, but you might find a few gay women as well.

They offer users a 3-month trial period, which is one of the reasons that many users here are the ones who have subscribed to the ‘Platinum’ paid package. The registration takes about 1 to 5 minutes at the very least and does not require you to fill in multiple  fields.


Uploading photos will help you get the 3-month trial period, whereas the profile photo can be added later.


Since there are multiple categories, it is easy to search for what you exactly want, while advanced search filters are also a handy way of finding the perfect man for yourself. Sending of hearts is free and you can add members to the list of your favourites.


What is disappointing though, is the fact that to send and receive messages, you might have to pay up a little bit.


Additional features such as voice and video chat are a bonus apart from the usual text messaging facility that Gaycupid provides its users with, and free members can upload upto 5 photos to their profiles.


Lastly, they have an Android app as well, which is similar in terms of functionality and design to the desktop version. Their gold membership gets billed at following prices –

Gold Membership

plan

cost per month

total cost

1 Month

24.98 $ / Month

$24.98

3 Months

16.66 $ / Month

$49.99

12 Months

8.33 $ / Month

$49.99

Platinum Membership

plan

cost per month

total cost

1 Month

29.98 $ / Month

$29.98

3 Months

20.00 $ / Month

$59.99

12 Months

10.00 $ / Month

$59.99

Gay FriendFinder

The next name on this list is  Gay FriendFinder, a site that has been around for about 24 years now, and is probably the oldest entry on this list.


The site, given its long history, is probably one of the first players in the market, which focuses on bringing together gay men from in and around their local vicinities.


To add spice to it, we also have a bunch of couples here, who are looking for people to join in and experiment with them or simply seeking platonic friendships.


When you sign up, the site asks you if you are seeking gay singles or couples in your area, apart from the usual form fields that one is required to fill and become a part of the community.


You can create a separate username and password or login via your existing email ID and password, which goes into setting up profiles on dating sites.

Most gay men here are above the age of 30, and the site’s primary focus at this point of time seems to veer towards gay couples seeking new friends or those who want to indulge in some kinky group fun.


To communicate with potential matches and friends, you can either drop them a direct message, email them or live chat with them when they are online.


The site further enables users to add filters such as age, location and the kind of connection they are looking for, which helps them narrow down the results.


For people looking to up their dating game on Gay FriendFinder, they also publish blog posts on a regular basis with tips and tricks to amplify your dating experience even further.


There is a community discussion forum that are the other benefits of this network, which put it right on top of the pedestal, when talking of fostering a healthy, happy and supportive gay community online.


A free basic account costs nothing, whereas a silver membership shall be billed at $22.99, $13.99 and $8.99 for a period of 1 month, 3 months and a year respectively.

Grindr

Grindr is the granddaddy of all gay dating apps that exist today, not because it is old or anything, but because of the sheer number of users and media attention that it has grabbed since the day, it has launched.


Grindr as a gay dating community is miles ahead in terms of daily engagement by users on their platform and all features are available for free users as well as the paid ones.


The popularity of this app can be gauged by the fact that 228 million messages and 20 million photos are exchanged on Grindr every day, which is quite a number. 


You receive matches based on your location and can set the distance to choose how close or distant they can be.  The primary modes of communication include both text messaging as well as photo sharing, akin to Bumble.


The live chat option is only available for premium subscribers.

Furthermore, you can even use the ‘Send Location’ feature to gauge the proximity of your potential match/partner whereas being an ‘Xtra’ or paid user has some benefits too, with the option to send multiple photos at once is a standout feature.


To receive highly customised matches, you can add details such as your weight, height, body type, ethnicity and ‘position’, which means your preferred sexuality. You can even customize your personality and be a little more descriptive with the ‘My Tribes’ field.


Grindr is probably the best-designed app amongst all  the dating services mentioned on this list and provides a fuss-free, leisurely and simple yet effective user experience.

OutPersonals

Branding itself as the ‘world’s largest gay dating and hookup site’, OutPersonals currently boasts of 1.3 million users who are actively searching for gay relationships on the platform.


The site has an active community and does not offer users a bland, static directory of people/matches with whom they can strike up a relationship or just have some kinky fun, by hooking up with them.


As a free user, OutPersonals allows you to check out the profiles of other gay men in and around your locality, before you sign up as a premium member of the portal.


The sign-up process is smooth and easy to fill, and gets over in no time.


Like most modern dating and hookup sites, OutPersonals too offers a text messaging service, apart from voice and video call functionality, which adds a unique dimension to the communication process.


They also have a dating-focused magazine, which contains articles and instructional videos that will aid you in making your dating game stronger as well as teaching you how to use the site to its full potential.

Upgrading to a Gold membership is a good deal too, with bonuses such as advanced search capabilities as well as priority in search listings whenever a user searches for a potential match.

Adam4Adam

While Grindr is the modern-day dater’s preferred gay dating app, long ago, during the early years of the Web 2.0, one site that took the gay dating concept online and made it mainstream, was Adam4Adam.


It won’t be wrong to say that Adam4Adam is the O.G. of online gay dating, and has a humongous user base of about 10 million people.


The site is completely free to use, and drives a large portion of its revenue via display ads, donations and other sources, while also providing you pay-per-view adult movies to watch and savour.


The Adam4Adam portal has a vast list of search filters, along with contact recommendations and you can even save 3 searches. 

If you are seriously looking for a casual homosexual relationship, you must also note that this site requires you to communicate within 10 days of matching, after which the messages and matches get deleted automatically. Sending and receiving messages is free for all.


You can either use the ‘Home’ profile while in your native or the ‘Visitor’ profile if you are travelling across the seven seas. You can either watch the live cam shows or browse escort profiles, all for.


Furthermore, they also have an online shop to buy sex toys and a blog with articles about health and wellness, for gay men.

Hornet 

As per this dating site, it is one of the best in the industry; in fact, the company owner claims Hornet to be the best dating site for gays. The site is ideal for those who are looking for a meaningful relationship.

 

It is a community-based dating site where people talk about their common interests and hobbies. Apart from being a gay community and dating site, it also offers though proving, bi men, and gay men content.

 

This one is an app-based site and is available in multiple languages, such as Chinese, Indonesian, African, Polish, and English. 


The site was launched in 2011, and since then, they have been able to garner tons of registered members. 

Hornet has more than 900,000 all alone from the UK, and daily around 1,000,000 people log in. The signup process is very simple, and you don’t need a password. 


Members are free to send messages to other members. We can say the only drawback about this platform is that the site doesn’t have a desktop version. 


Price


  • One month: $9.99
  • Three months: $25.99
  • Twelve months: $55.99

Estimated monthly visits: 43,747,453

Compatibility: Android, iOS, Desktop

Website link: www.hornet.com 

Gender Ratio: 100% Gay Men

Best for: On the go dating

OurTime

While most sites or dating apps here focus on gay men between the age of 25 to 40 years, seldom do they cater to or provide assistance to the folks who are above the age of 50 and want to experience the joy of online dating, finding the man of their dreams.


OurTime caters to this very segment of users with its unique approach for senior dating and homosexual relationships.


If you are someone who is looking for something more solid than a casual hookup or short-term dating, then OurTime is probably your best bet!


You can search for matches by applying filters like age, zip code, religion, marital status, zodiac sign, height and even blood type.


There is a swipe feature similar to Tinder, while live chat options can connect you instantly with another user who is online at that point of time.


You can even have a little bit of fun by sending the matches, ‘flirts’ or a few digital gifts.

Scruff

Started in 2010 as a place for a bearded gay man to seek hookups, Scruff has become quite a popular online dating platform for gay folks, with 12 million users belonging to different sexualities and genders.


Their layout is similar to that of Grindr, which lets the user sift through the list of potential matches.


There is also a ‘Travel’ section, which contains information about the cities they may visit, and an events section, which highlights upcoming queer activities and experiences to participate.


The site has a photo-sharing feature similar to Snapchat where once you send the photo to the suitor; it  gets deleted automatically after they have viewed it.

Gays.com

As evident by the name, Gays.com lets gay users search profile of fellow men in the same community, in order to find a date for themselves.


They have a 24x7 available live chat option for members to communicate.


This is more of a social media site for the gay community rather than a simple dating site.


It has about 1, 05,000 registered users in the USA alone along with 45,000 monthly visitors across the globe.


You can either use your email or Facebook login to sign up and use the site, and even couples can register with a single account rather than two separate accounts.

Apart from sending ‘flirts’, you can search and exchange messages with other users for free or browse profiles one by one via Speed Dating. A chatroom is additionally available for members to join and communicate with each other.


Users can save or add each other as friends/favourites and use the discussion forum to discuss topics ranging from sex, wellness, health and other associated stuff.

EliteSingles

EliteSingles’ sole aim is to simplify the entire dating experience and make it less cumbersome and more fun-oriented.


They have a personality test, which consists of about 30 questions, answering which; you will be matched with men who share identical traits as described by you in the answers to the personality test questions.


EliteSingles provides you about 3 to 7 matches on  the daily basis and you can easily start communicating with a potential partner via texting.


An interesting aspect of matching here is that 82% of the men here hold a university degree of some kind, so you know that they are actually career-oriented.


The pricing plans here are as follows –

  • 12 months: $39.95/month
  • 12 months: $39.95/month
  • 3 months: 69.95/month

Chappy 

Chappy is quickly becoming one of the most used swiping apps for gay dating. It receives more than 2 million swipes per day. This dating app works only in the UK. 


If you know about Bumble, then it’s the same company that operates Chappy. It was in the year 2018 when Chappy went through a redesigning, and since then, there has been no looking back. 


Ollie Locke is the brainchild behind the Chappy app. You can download the app on your iOS mobile phones. This one is a dedicated gay man dating app. 


If you are a gay man tired of visiting gay dating sites that don’t work, you have come to the right place because Chappy has the right kind of people for the correct type of interest. 


We would have liked it even more if the dating app would have been available for Android users. Another drawback that we got to know is that it is not compatible with some Apple iPhones as well. 


The registration process is easy, and you can sign in using your Facebook account. You need to turn on your GPS so that you can find local matches easily. And here’s something to make you all happy, it’s a free application.


Estimated monthly visits: 8,553,922

Compatibility: iOS

Website link: www.chappyapp.com 

Gender Ratio: 100% Gay Men

Best for: Safe and comfortable dating

Growl

For those who only want to join a free gay man dating app, this is the app that you should be downloading. Growl is a premium dating app dedicated exclusively to gay men. 


Social networking, as well as a communication platform, has gay members from all over the world. It’s a fun app, and the best part is, it is 100% free!


The site had its inception in 2010, and since then, more than 9 million people have joined the platform. Registration and using all the features are always free.


However, the registration process is quite long. It takes around 2 minutes to fill up all the details and start using the app. And you can’t log in via Facebook either. 

The biggest drawback of this site is that one can easily create a fake profile because nothing is done in regards to background checks and verification. But then, the app has many great features too.


Such as there is an advanced search system, the chat feature is available, you can see who is online and resides close to you, and more. 


Estimated monthly visits: 1,823,000

Compatibility: Android, iOS

Website link: www.growlrapp.com 

Gender Ratio: 100% Gay Men

Best for: People looking for free chat application

Tips to Online Gay Dating

Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not

The worst that someone can do is pretend to be someone else. The purpose of joining date is not just to have fun but allowing to have the same as well. The more honest you will be, the better matches you will find. And sooner or later, the person you are connecting with will get to know everything about you. 

Pick a shorter date activity

If you are meeting someone for the first time, it would be better to plan for a shorter date. Just in case if you guys are not compatible, you can leave as early as possible. And if the opposite happens, you can always change the plan later. 

Focus on body language

While meeting someone for the first time, you must look and sound confident. This way, the other person will not have second thoughts for you. Work on your body language; you are only meeting another human being. 

Ask open-ended questions

When you ask an open-ended, you get to know a lot about the other person. Rather than coming someone as a rigid person, you will get to know different viewpoints of the person, and you will have the opportunity to take the conversion forward as well. 

Ask thought-provoking questions

The more thought-provoking questions will be, the more you will know the other person’s personality. Allow the person to speak and listen to the intuitive answers. 

Don’t feel the need to fill the silence

When you are with someone, it is not necessary to keep talking or fill the urge to fill in the silence. You should learn to enjoy each other’s company, after all, you are here to have some fun.

Final Words

With the concept of helping to find love for everyone, irrespective of their sexual orientation, many gay dating sites have come up over the last few years.

All these sites have a robust set of features, ranges between affordable to high pricing as well as slick design, which makes it relatively easier to use these platforms to find a Mr. Right or Prince Charming of your dreams.

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