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Anal Training: 6 Must-Know Things Before Trying Anal Sex (2020)

Butt fucking is not as easy as vaginal sex as ramming an anus is not as natural as nailing a pussy. Also, the fact that ass walls are tighter, smaller and less flexible than pussy walls make it all the more tasking for couples who have a thing for anal sex.

In spite of these complications and hurdles, many straight and gay couples enjoy anal sex with full veracity and playfulness which also spices up their sex lives seamlessly. Thankfully, many sex toys and dildos have been invented to make anal training a lot easier for interested couples.

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Also, the invention of lubes has made it a lot easier to glide a dick more easily in the narrow walls of an anus. Today we are going to discuss the ways in which you can prepare yourself or your partner for anal sex.

These anal training routines will require a lot of patience and endurance for some girls and guys whereas some of them will be accustomed to anal sex more easily and the reason for this is the basic difference of anatomy between different individuals.

Therefore, if one is not feeling comfortable after having an anal sex session, then he or she must consult sex specialities before continuing with their anal sex sessions.

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If you are not sure whether butt stuff is for you or not, then a little bit of anal training won’t hurt. Preparing yourself for the anal training before you start doing the real thing will allow you to do butt stuff easily.

Anal sex is when you do anal intercourse. There are many people who enjoy it, while others outright hate it. Anyway, it is safe to have anal sex unless you enjoy it. Never do it if you don’t feel comfortable with it.

Also, to do anal sex, you must apply lubricant as well so that penis can get inside the anus smoothly. Your anus doesn’t make lubricants on its own, whereas the vagina does; that’s why the experience will be different.

Never use stuff like baby oil, lotion, Vaseline, and even oil. Just buy a lubricant available in the market, and apply it on the penis or dildo whatever you are using.

Ensure to stop doing it if your body doesn’t allow it. Anal sex is not for everyone, and if it hurts, you must stop doing it rather than damaging the corners of the butt hole.

Now, no one can become pregnant if someone ejaculates inside the butt hole; however, you have more chances of having STDs. Therefore, ask your partner to wear a condom whenever you have anal sex. So, the moral of the story is to use lube and wear a condom.

What makes the anal training so important?

The anus is a tight hole, and the muscles of the anus aren't familiar with stretching. Therefore, to enjoy anal sex, you will need to train it a bit to get flexible and lubricated enough to accommodate a penis or a sex toy.

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Moreover, anal training is not that painful and actually teaches you how to lessen your pain while having anal sex. It is easy, and you can even enjoy the process as much as you enjoy the anal sex.

Also, if you directly want to experiment with anal sex, the process can get a lot more painful and can even divert you from having anal sex forever. Therefore, it is always advisable to be prepared and to take things slowly before practicing real anal sex!

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How to Do It? - #1 Start by smaller things

If your butt hole is small or tight, you have not option other than trying tiny sexy toys, or even the little finger of your hand might be good enough to start with. You just need to use the sex toy which is less than a couple of centimeters in diameter and try to insert it as deep as possible.

Do not go very deep with a sex toy that does not have a retriever as it can be hard to remove it if it goes in completely. However, with fingers, you can always remove them whenever you feel that you are not able to go deeper. 

Note: Those people, who are not comfortable in trying by themselves, can take help of their lovers or partners. It will not only make the process more enjoyable, but it will also be safer with the help of proper supervision and assistance.

How to Do It? - #2 Know Your Anal Sex Toys

Using anal sex toys for training depends completely on you as your fingers or even the penis of your partner could prove to be sufficient in most of the cases.

 However, there are many perks of using a sex toy as it gives you more idea about the actual feeling and pain you may have to undergo while having a real penis inside your butt.

Anal plugs are used on a large scale for anal training, and they come in different shapes and sizes as well. Their most popular shape comprises of a narrow tip which goes on increases till the bottom.

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Moreover, these plugs have limiters which allow you to remove the anal plugs whenever you feel that you cannot go deeper than this. Also, straight anal plugs are also available which lets you experience the feeling which you get after taking in a real dick.

Vibrating plugs are also available which enable you to experience different sensations and stimulation that make your anal training experience a lot pleasurable. The different sizes of anal plugs and vibrators allow you to start with a smaller size and eventually get used to sizes big enough as compared to real penises.

However, we advise you to not go for over thick anal plugs as they will deteriorate the experience when you engage in anal sex with your guy.

How to Do It? - #3 Be Patient

If you are not comfortable with anal plugs, you can even use dildos that are much similar to a real dick when it comes to their shape and size. If you want to reach higher levels of ecstasy and fun, you will have to make your anus flexible enough to accommodate large sized dicks and dildos.

One method to do it is to prolong your session when you have an anal plug or dildo inserted in your anus. You can try to move the dildo or plug-in circular motion after inserting them in your anus.

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This will not only help to stretch the walls of your anus but will also widen your butt hole and will make it enough to accommodate a big dick afterwards. You can also take help of your partner for doing this just to ensure more safety and validity to the process.

Also, be patient enough to bear the pain initially until you get accustomed to anal training and actually start enjoying it. 

Some women keep the anal plugs inserted for several hours and some women even sleep with the plug inserted in their anus. However, we do not recommend such prolonged insertions as it can give you a painful feeling after removing it.

The frequency of insertions must also be focused just to make your anus get used to being inserted by something.

How to Do It? - #4 Be Cautious

Your anal cavity is made up of complex muscles or tissue groups which need to be dealt with caution and care. Be aware that anus is not just for having sex, but it performs various other bodily functions as well which makes it essential to take proper care during anal training.

The most important muscles of your anus are the internal and external sphincter muscles. The external sphincter muscles help to maintain the size and flexibility of your butt hole whereas the internal muscles need to be dealt with care as your will can not control them.

A slight fissure or stress in the anal canal can lead to a lot of discomforts, and therefore it is always recommendable to use lotions and lubricants before initiating anal training or even before having anal sex.

How to Do It? - #5 Use Appropriate Lubricants

Lubricants are specially formulated for anal sex, and therefore you can use it for anal training as well. They lubricate the external and internal walls of your anus which allow you to glide in anal plugs and dildos in a much easier way.

The lubricants come in two different types such as silicone based lubricants and water-based lubricants. Silicone lubricants last longer and therefore prove to be much more ideal than water-based lubricants. 

However, you will not be able to use them with the anal sex toys and dildos which are consist of silicone as the silicone content of your lubricate will react with the silicone of your sex toy and the result will damage your sex toy and can even prove to be harmful to your anal tract.

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Also, the silicone-based lubricants cannot be used with latex condoms as well which limits most of your options while participating in both anal training and anal sex. On the other hand, water-based lubricants are more skin-friendly and do not pose any threat to your anal canal as well.

Moreover, they are compatible with all the types of anal sex toys and condoms which make them more preferable to use as compared to the silicone based lubricants.

The only drawback of water-based lubricants is that they dry up quickly and therefore, you need to use them more and may have to reapply them more than once during prolonged sessions of anal training. 

How to Do It? - #6 Use Desensitizers

Desensitizing lubes have unique ingredients in them which can reduce the pain and numb the sensations while performing anal training. These lubes numb the area around and in your anus and make insertions much less painful and smooth.

However, they must not be overtly used as well as they might have negative repercussions as well.These are the accessories and factors that play an essential role in anal training. Now let us take a quick look at the steps that need to be followed in a step-by-step manner.

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    Apply a small portion of lube inside your anus and apply it a bit on your little finger as well.
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    Gradually replace your pinkie with an anal plug or dildo of smaller circumferences. Add more lube to your anus or sex toy if necessary.
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    Start inserting the sex toy or finger in your anus. If it goes deep without hurting use a sex toy of the larger circumference.
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    Follow the correct angle. If the angle goes long, it may damage the inner walls of your anus. These walls are sensitive enough to start bleeding after a potentially powerful push in the wrong direction. Therefore, be careful and do the insertion slowly.
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    Keep the sex toy or dildo inserted for some time. After an hour or so, try with a sex toy of larger size and repeat the process. Always make sure that your butt hole is well lubricated before an insertion of any size or shape.
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    One needs to be focused on the birth of a sex toy rather than its length because the depth can be gradually explored once you get accustomed to its thickness. Note: It is not easy to insert anything deeper in your butt hole after crossing a certain limit. Therefore, it is always advisable to take the help of your partner while performing anal training. It will also give him some idea about your brown hole which he can use when you both start having anal sex.
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    Keep in mind that an anal plug is much easier to insert as compared to a real penis or dildo. Therefore, to start your experience with real dicks and dildos, you will have to get used to a butt plug which is at least one inch bigger in circumference.
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    Follow all the above steps for a few days and get accustomed to the experience. Once you start enjoying the whole process, you will be tempted to use anal plugs of larger sizes. It also means that you are now ready to start having anal sex with your partner.

More Tips in Doing Anal

Anal play is not as difficult as you might think it would be. Here’s how to go about it safely and securely.

  • Is this your first time, better to try it all alone to see whether it works for you or not! When you are alone, you will get to know how comfortable you feel with the butt thing. Also, you can use a butt plug. Try it a few times before getting into the real deal.
  • Once you try it with your partner, be vocal about it. If it pains, ask him to stop. While having it with a partner, ask him to go gentle, if it still pains, then probably, anal fun is not for you. Don’t keep quiet because you don’t want to hurt your partner. Tell him honestly.
  • It is always better to do poop or take a shower before you do anal sex. The fresher you feel, the better you will be able to enjoy your anal training session. The first time is always special. Hence, go clean and enjoy it.
  • You will need time to get used to it, therefore don’t feel embarrassed at all. See, you are not an expert, but you can master the skills if you try. Therefore, if it doesn’t work for the first time, try it the second time and see if it is getting easier.
  • Always ensure to ask your partner to use some good-quality lube before inserting it. Lubes are important. You should also ask your partner to wear condoms because STDs can spread pretty quickly through the anus. To have a relaxed anal session, use some lubes.
  • Breathe in and out slowly to get used to the new sensation. The more tensed you will be, the more tensed the anal muscles will be, making the whole anal training session least enjoyable. This is why you should take deep breaths in between to calm your mind.
  • Ask your partner not to thrust. Tell him to go slow. Your anus is a sensitive area, and it can get hurt. You are not into any kind of competition. Go slow.


Here’s another tip for you. Do vaginal first in the firsthand and orgasm. Once you do, you will open up the sphincter. It will get relaxed, and you will be able to enjoy the show much better. So, go a have vaginal penetration first before you do anal sex.


If you are worried that having anal sex will make you want to poop or make the entire scene messier, then chances are less. For the first-timers, you might feel as if you have to poop, but then when you try, nothing comes out.

Just to make sure, you can try to do poop beforehand. If you have already taken a dump and eat healthy food, there’s nothing to worry about.

The next thing that you should do is take a shower. Clean yourself, and your butt hole correctly. You can use anus cleaning ointment to give it a deep rinse. Once done, wipe the area off, and you are all set.


Yes, it is always better to have it a go all alone all by yourself. Even if you have spoken to your partner about the anal stuff, you should still try it alone for the first time. You will get to know how deep the penis should go, and until when you feel pleasurable. You can use an anal sex toy to try it out.


We have already talked about it. And do remember that you need to tell your partner whenever it is hurting. As we said, the anal area is susceptible, and it can get damaged. Your anus wall will pain a lot later on if you don’t speak out.

Plus, who wants to go to the doctor for an anus check-up, right.

Conclusive Thoughts

These were the steps that need to be followed before beginning your anal explorations.

The anus is a sensitive and vital part of your body which needs to be dealt with utmost care. However, due to the various options available in the market today, it has become much easier and convenient to get accustomed to anal training to prepare yourself for a steamy session of anal sex.

If you have any other ideas or ways to make this experience smoother and more comfortable, you can share them with us, and we will be pleased to explore more about them. Till then, work on your ass and make it more inviting and sexy for your partner. Happy anal ventures!!


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